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too. If I don't have an emotionally involved romantic

even if it's the most tissue-thin fantasy

in practice I take responsibility for my pleasure; and now I'm pretty good at

and then turn to me and smile and offer to do what it takes?)

then does he take a moment post-orgasm to catch his

one of my #1 judgments of whether a new partner could be good for me is

I certainly couldn't expect him to stimulate me any more than he already

I couldn't go falling asleep on him could I? I couldn't even pause to

our societally-determined sexual scripts. And one of the biggest

he can't get me off. big dick? oral sex? tons of foreplay? kink?

when I wrote: now I have the best boyfriend I've ever had. but

who had been extremely helpful and caring

500.00 a pop. I was earning $7.50 per hour at the time. I didn't go.

she referred me to a center that gave orgasmic dysfunction

then told me that the problem was obviously my partners. When I insisted that I

that I was choosing to avoid responsibility.... It was

but it's also nice to be able to drive yourself so you can go where you

which means she can blame him for any mistakes. It's nice to be driven

and to talk openly and comfortably about it. During that process

rational feminist with self-esteem and integrity?