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many of these ""BDSM versus sex"" reactions strike me as being born

a stereotype that BDSMers cannot find love

whereas sex supposedly ""should"" be about

and you can ""dislike"" thinking of this

a quasi-conservative organization. Actual

who may not wish to be asked to engage in

let's not get our nice pure BDSM all dirty by including sex."" (Note: My

then it's not weird. But if it's not sexual

I once met a couple who told me that it took them a

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if it means you're defective or dangerous -- who wants that? And so as

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and everyone gets confused all over again. A cultural

about what ""qualifies"" as sex. And you

so men are typically more motivated to claim that sex acts ""count"" as sex.

so we are typically more motivated to claim that sex acts ""don't