Every indexed document

and the series is being published post-by-post even as I write this. The first post in

but it can be used in balanced and consensual ways that

though -- whatever the implications for gender or power.

is an ongoing process. People have a lot of urges

and to really be friends with your prospective

and learn to start with a light careful touch when playing with

though presumably I'm being affected by cultural tropes to

my most clearly masculine S&M activity is masochism. I always feel

and that can come from listening to feminist women struggle with these

just coming to spaces in the S&M community can be a goldmine of

with all that can imply. But in the process

in ways that also feed my S&M preferences. For example

I strive to use dominance and submission as a tool for helping my

and with who. It's meant I learned how better to read and

which scared the hell out of him. He writes:

etc. That's a pretty disturbing thought for an egalitarian who's worked

really turned on by grabbing someone by the hair

who comments around the Internet under the name Scootah

I've experimented with dominance as well as

and ""The first rule of Fight Club is: you do not talk about Fight Club.""