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and examine how men in southern Africa might

incurable sexually transmitted infection; given a population where

but... what if the most effective way to fight HIV is to

I hate abstinence-only education more than anything. Seriously. But...

the less they control their own sexual acts.) But

the mantra for HIV educators is ABC: the three things that protect against HIV/

some people argue that declining to sate ourselves sexually is the best

as long as I promise not to put the moves on him.

a woman might feel that there's something terribly

even if you insist on sleeping on the floor. I promise not to push you- though I

and maybe he won't. The important thing is

the idea only seems awesome when (a) I've just been

once I got a grip on how to circumvent some

there were dark undercurrents to my sexuality that simply scared

I could feel the societal boxes around my sexuality

not least because I had practically no idea what I

perhaps because I felt they set standards I couldn't ""perform."" Talking

I was terrible at communicating about sex. Reading explicit sex scenes made

full years of abstinence. I considered doing so myself

I occasionally came back to the idea. A few female friends took