http://www.seekingarrangement.com/blog/?p=5561 -- [back]

http://www.seekingarrangement.com/blog/?p=5561 -- [back] 3. Mistress Matisse on sex work and emotional labor: http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/ Content?oid=26113 and also: http://mistressmatisse.blogspot.com/2011/01/im-expecting- bit-of-heat-from.html -- [back] 4. Tyler Knight on emotional difficulties as a porn star: http://tylerknight.com/2011/12/18/oneironaut-at-wrest/ -- [back] te Ok ok Section 3: Making It Complicated KOK ok Relationships: Chemistry 1. Infamous article "Marry Him: The Case For Settling For Mr. Good Enough": http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2008/03/marry-him/6651/ -- [back] te Ok ok Evolution: You Don't Always Know What You're Thinking 1. Autumn Whitefield-Madrano on the "fog of abuse": http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/20 1 1/08/08/i-can-handle-it-on-relationship- violence-independence-and-capability/ -- [back] 2. My old post "Am I Evolving Away From Monogamy?": http://clarissethorn.com/blog/ 2010/05/1 1/am-i-evolving-away-from-monogamy/ -- [back] te Ok ok Abuse: Thinking More Clearly About BDSM versus Abuse 1. Pepper Mint's essay "Towards A General Theory of BDSM and Power": pow: —_ -- [back] 2. The origins of the Power and Control Wheel: http://www.theduluthmodel.org/training/ wheels.html -- Image of the Power & Control Wheel: http://www.theduluthmodel.org/pdf/PowerandControl pdf -- Text of that wheel, and other relevant wheels: http://www.dhs.state.il.us/page.aspx?item=38490 -- [back] 3. Image of the Equality Wheel: http://www.theduluthmodel.org/pdf/Equality.pdf -- [back] ok oe S&M: Aftercare or Brainwashing? 1. That study on intimacy again: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/18563549 -- [back] 2. That awesome aftercare page again: HOUSE_OVERSIGHT_018696